coming out

[binxnyanko]

what was your coming out experience like? i know mine was the cliched one of my mother crying and telling me that all i needed was professional help and now shes just in complete denial and asks me everday when i get home from school if i have a boyfriend yet.

but i was just reall curious about what everyone elses coming out experience was like :3

[Jeremy]

My coming out didnt go how i planned. I broke up with my girlfriend and told her i believed i was gay. She told on of her friends and the word spread to my brother who passed it on to my parents. My dad was furious and said i get kicked out when i turn 18 unless i 'become' straight, and my mom was more shocked but she said she would still be there for me and accept me. Although they dont want me to announce it to the rest of my family ie my grandparents,untill i turn 18 and they would prefer i not have a boyfriend, but my mom doesnt mind that so much any more.

[april =]]

mine was actualli pretty good.
i got asked if i was and i couldnt hide it any longer.
mi friends were pretty ok with it.
some reacted in a good way, and with others i lost friendships.
mi mom is ok w/ and her side of the famili.
but mi dad is still ugh, even though he says that hes ok w/ it.
still people freaked and started drama w/ omg she wants to date you(to a gurl) and i never said anything.
i have a hard time trusting some people.

[Andrea_x]

Mine was ok I guess.
I came out to my dad and stepmother first, then my friends.
Then I moved back with my mom and she's kinda, not supportive of gays.
I haven't came out to her yet, I'm scared to, and I don't know how she'll take it.

But other than that, my friends are really supportive of me and it's cool, just the other day this girl asked me if I was gay and I told her I was and it was my first really public coming out thing, cuz my friend group is really small and keep to themselves, so no one else at my school knew.

My teacher looks at me with disgust though, but she doesn't matter.

So yeah, that's my story.
:)

[Fink]

You'll always have someone that doesn't approve, there's no way around that. The important thing is to stay proud of yourself and keep your head held high; if they don't think they can break you they won't try anymore.

[Allaire]

Mine went as follows-
Me: "I'm bisexual, mom."
Mom: "Why can't you just be gay?"

I kid you not.
She's not real supportive, and she thinks it's a phase. But she's not openly hostile about it most of the time at least.
The rest of my family doesn't know; they would not be cool with it. A lot of my friends figured it out themselves, but it's never been a big deal at all with them.

[Allaire]

summer said:

I haven't told my mom.
But I told my boyfriend I was bisexual he said he still loved me and it doesn't matter, he just looked at me and said please don't fall in love with a girl, I can't lose you. And I'm not going to fall in love with a girl because I am with him and I love him dearly. Nothing will ever change that.

Awwww. Adorable.

[binxnyanko]

:3 thats totally true because somebody always wants to the play the hero even if that means making people like us the villains but it'll always get better with time
Fink said:

You'll always have someone that doesn't approve, there's no way around that. The important thing is to stay proud of yourself and keep your head held high; if they don't think they can break you they won't try anymore.

[binxnyanko]

Thank everyone so much for telling their stories it means alot to me
i really love hearing about other people experiences
and if anybody ever needs to talk i always have an ear to listen with =]

[screamingXtearz]

I haven't had the pain that most ppl have in comming out sipmly becaues, from the start I never decided. I siad to my friends and family in the 8th grade that if i like boys or girls that's none of your business. You can either love me or hate me at this point I don't care. Form then on they beleived what thye wanted, but I do know my family said they support me and my decision - and as for my friends well.. some satyed others left.
The point is if your honest formthe start you have nothing to fear form anybody, personal happiness is the key to life so do what makes you happy. You don't need 'professional' help, NO professionl can tell you who to like.

XoXo Vamp

[Shannon]

I had a much easier time coming out. I mean when I told my mother, her responce was "I always knew.." And she's supported me every since, although she has yet to accept any of the girls I bring home..gotta work on that next.
When I came out, it was my first year at a new school - so I kind of kept the whole "i'm gay" thing to myself. But eventually me and a girl got involved and everyone found out, I guess it was easier than actually telling people. Most of the people I had talked to prior to that stopped talking to me completely, I "disgusted them". It was only middle school, so I didn't really care. But now that i'm in highschool i've found friends who accept me, so it's all good.

[Erwin]

Well, I havn't comepletely come out...

But after lying to myself I wasn't bi for about 2 years I admitted it to myself, but didn't tell anyone for about 6 months because it hurted so much keeping it for myself. I wanted to tell everyone about it...scream it out loud.
After those 6 months I started telling my best friends who I trust one by one. I asked for help from my (lesbian) teacher. And we come with an option telling it to my whole class in an presentation everyone had to make. So I did. And told my whole class I was bi. And against my expectations everyone respected me and didn't mind I also like boys :) I was so reliefed I could cry from happiness^^ (But I didn't:P)
Every time I talk about it I feel reliefed. I still have to tell my family and the rest of my friends. But I'm afraid. I know my parents will accept me the way I am, but I'm just a little bit ashamed I guess... For an example: To me kissing a guy feels like a sin :/ And I know I will lose some friends...I already lost a few. But I don't care about them anymore :)

[erin]

so i started coming out like 3 days after i realized that i had feelings for this girl... but i only told my friends... like i told one friend and then like the next day and so on and now all of my friends no lol. theyre all perfectly fine with it and half of them are gay as well so they no what its like. I dont have a problem with ppl knowing and i never will.... although i havent told my parents yet so i guess u can say i havent completly came out yet. i no that my mom and sister have ideas seeing as that i have a bunch of rainbow shit and i watch the L word all the time but im not really sure. idk y i havent told them, i think im just scared of what they'll say... like none of my friends who have told their parents told me good stories about it n some of them advice against it. Before i realized i like girls just girls i knew i wasnt gonna tell my mom about it because she told me she never understood the whole bisexual thing but now that im fully straight i might tell her but she still doesnt know if shes truely fine with it... we talk about how my friends are gay all the time but idk something just doesnt seem right. i think i will one day soon maybe tell my mom and maybe sister but my dad doesnt need to no until i get married or he finds me fucking a girl in my room or something lol.